In order of seriousness and permanency, they are: playing the field, going around, going steadily, going steady, pinning, engaging, and marrying. Once a couple are seen together three or four times within a short period, it is assumed by their peers that they are going steady. This assumption often traps a boy or girl into forming an alliance.
A fifteen-year-old girl explains, "If you date a boy a few times everybody else automatically drifts away so you have to go steady with him.
Although it is nearly always the boy who actually voices the proposal to go steady, it is usually the girl who has fostered and nurtured the relationship. This is not unnatural since the adolescent female is a year or two ahead of the male emotionally and biologically. Some women are not as subtle. A handsome six footer complains and his mother confirms the fact that six girls have already proposed to him that he be their steady. One girl has been phoning regularly for three months.
The emotional tone of the relationship between steadies is usually misunderstood by adults. When I asked. Does going steady lead to an engagement or marriage? Once a couple have started going steady, they will often go to extraordinary lengths to be together. In the three-minute interval between classes, a girl may rush the entire length of the school to catch a glimpse of her beau.
As a symbol of belonging to each other, couples sometimes affect similar dress and styles. One girl spent an hour in the school nurse's office, crying because her boy friend had been making eyes at another girl. A boy roundly chastised his steady because she stopped to talk to a male classmate in the corridor a few times. A mother told me that her son was forced to give up dropping in on a girl in the neighborhood, whom he had known since childhood, because her regular date objected.
At dances, steady couples generally dance every dance together. If the pattern is broken, hard feelings and fist fights are likely. A boy or girl who cheats or who switches steadies more than once or twice a year can become the object of scorn and contempt. I was told, "That's cheap—they would be acting as badly as those people in Hollywood you read about.
After several months of going steady the relationship may assume all the sparkle and spontaneity of a couple who have just celebrated their silver wedding anniversary. Dress and manners sometimes tend to become casual. One sixteen-year-old girl often receives her boy friend clad in a shabby bathrobe, her face covered with cold cream and her hair up in curlers. In the middle of the evening she may wander off to take a bath, leaving him with members of her family. She bawls him out for getting low marks in physics or for going out with boys who are known to drink.
One anti-going-steady youth told me. They remind me of my parents. One good feature of this kind of unglamorized propinquity, in the opinion of some parents, is that it discourages sexual activity.
He sees my girl under all kinds of circumstances. Several girls told me, "Sex is the chief problem between my boy friend and me. I found that many parents were making the mistake of assuming that then children know more than they actually do. I see how far I can go and still keep control. At a recent meeting of parents in a comfortable residential district, those present all agreed that sex education was their job but the majority asked the school to undertake it.
Recently, with a social worker, I reviewed several hundred cases of teen-age pregnancy. Many of the couples had been seeing each other regularly, with little or no supervision. Most of the liaisons had taken place in parked cars, in homes where the girl was baby-sitting or at the homes of friends whose parents were out of town.
The social worker observed. The result is that many adolescents feel no guilt about what they've done. Questioned about his knowledge of five teen-age pregnancies in a suburban community, a fifteen-year-old boy replied, "What's all the fuss about? One highly qualified social scientist affiliated with a large Canadian university believes that going steady is the forerunner of a social revolution in sex behavior.
He sees no harm in premarital relationships for adolescents if the social taboos and fears of conception are banished. He predicts that at least one of these barriers will soon be removed with the discovery of a foolproof oral contraceptive. Finally, when they are mature in their twenties, they will settle down with a single partner.
But this view, of course, is far from general. And parents can find further reassurance in the fact that the average period of going steady is fairly brief. It often ends with the school year.
Sometimes it doesn't survive the football season: the girl may be dazzled by a star fullback and disenchanted when he's no longer a public idol. Teen-agers give a variety of reasons for breaking up. One girl said. We used to talk on the phone an hour. Now a five-minute call is mostly made up of pauses. We've got nothing to say to each other. Cheating, of course, is always sufficient grounds for a separation.
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